When it comes to wanting to be in a relationship— some of us try so hard that we diminish the quality of who we are.

Some women try way too hard— booty butt cheeks hanging out, and everything is everywhere.  It is like observing a human billboard, with free advertising, displaying a degraded product that needs to be oversold, because no one is really buying.  All the while, selling ourselves short, and we come up short in getting the right man.

Some men try super hard, and are more engrossed into building their bodies than their minds, souls and hearts, or putting all of their focus in the wrong direction, and talking up all of their goods, trying to impress, only to be gotten by women who are shallow, materialistic, and selfish.

And we blame all of the bad results we attract on love, when we sold our love in all the wrong places.

You must know, what is for you, will be for you.

You do not have to try so hard, to the point, that you undervalue yourself.  Just do you in everything you want, and build your inner quality of life from all perspectives.  Be productive, and oriented about self-growth, get your intellectuality on— always; and you will attract the right person.

What is for you is for you.

You are to enjoy your life! Get out and socialize.  Add value to your associations.  If you are in unity with yourself (heart, mind, soul and spirit) you will either attract those who see your aura and want to be a part (but do not provide the quality that you have built) or you will attract those who possess the same aura as you and can bring their value to the table.

Try not to let your primary focus be on just getting somebody, and being with someone.  When that is your focus, you end up with anybody.

Learn the difference between sexy and sleazy. Less is not always best.

Try to impress with your spirit rather than with your words.  Your spirit speaks louder than you ever could anyway.  Let your words be the backup of who you are— not your spokesperson. 

Work on keeping your heart right, and treat everyone as good as you want to be treated. Appreciate, stop taking all the time and give. Get yourself nice and tight, with the right exercise and diet.

In doing all of your self work, you are increasing your self worth.  The value you can bring to any relationship, you will not allow to be undervalued, simply by accepting anyone that wants you. 

If you have all female friends, balance your circle.  If you have all male friends, balance the circle. Be loyal to your circle and the circle should reciprocate.  Drop the dead weights and get with the heavy weights.

You will find that when you increase your value, your social circles will begin to change, because you have changed. 

Hold your position, because what is for you will be for you.

Do not hold yourself back by waiting to live.  Meaning, do not wait to live your life, because you are waiting on the “one” to come into your life.  Better yet, know that you are not waiting at all, you are just living and all good things will come!

Lastly, trust the Gods and the Universal power; know you are on the right path because you live life in a way that aligns with all good things.  When you have done everything good that is in your power to do, you have spiritual back up.  There is a cycle, a season and a time for all things. Just rest and live!