Support: The Relationship Stabilizer

A relationship requires— no it mandates support.    

Support is one of the foundational necessities that help to “gel” the relationship.

There are many ways to provide support.  It is you being an advocate.  The one who provides encouragement, the assistant, advisor, the right arm, the rock, the protector of the investment or project; and it is about you bringing your skills and talent to the task.

Support is you being your partner’s spiritual and emotional supporter.

The support structure allows you to see a side of your partner that is a part of who he/she is.  Sometimes, “who” we are determines “why” we are.  You get to learn a little more than you did before.

Complimenting your partner is a big part in providing support.  This is hard for some of us.  Some of us pay a compliment as if we have to go in to our pockets for it.

If you have a problem complimenting your partner, there is clearly a selfish, prideful, insecure or stubborn reason you have that is creating this problem for you.  A compliment inspires confidence.  Why would you deny your partner of anything good you can provide?

In relationships, the motto is pretty much about being and doing together, not separate.  Being supportive of each other, puts you in a place of togetherness.

Should you not support your partner, it sends a negative message. It implies you do not care about his/her total well being. Why not support your partner, especially if he/she has worked on your projects, shared and supported your endeavors?

Your lack of support is noticed and noted. It is a blatant offense.  If your partner says nothing about it, it does not mean they are not thinking about it.  This will cause the unsupported partner to move forward, accepting external reinforcement.

Division on any level of a relationship creates distance, and distance brings unfamiliarity.

Your partner should not have to ask you for support.  It should be understood, and without discussion, that you are their main champion for the cause.  It also allows you both to build together, resulting in you growing together.  There is less risk of growing apart.

Having separate lives is critical to being a couple, but there is a slight catch to this.  Where growth is necessary to individual improvement; please do not become so independently separate that you grow apart from each other.

Provide robust support to each other, and observe together the different angles you have not seen before.  The lack of support will provide distance and the need for external bonding.

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