You Need a Fire! (Part 4)

Couples are too busy for each other. There is a lot of information out there regarding taking time and making time for each other.

In truth, we do what we really want to do.  Don’t we?

“Taking” the time is really about “making” the time. The statement alone appears too labor intensive and gives us the impression of having to use a little more energy, than we care to spare, during the course of our busy lives.

Let’s not concentrate on taking and making time. Why not maximize the time in our daily routine?   The same routine you use everyday.

We can take ourselves out of the habitual ho-hum, must do routine, revamp it a little, and bond with our partner at the same time.  We must get up and do what we need to do everyday anyway. Why not add a little love spice in the course of the day, everyday?

If we can make the home encounters more interesting, we will not need to make up couple nights like— “date night, sex night”, etc.  You can enjoy time together whenever you guys are in the same place at the same time.  Making every moment count!

Talk about something funny that happened in your day while you are getting dressed. Put on his tie, and zip up her dress. Touch and hug each other. Brush each other. Play fight with each other.  Pull his belt.  Pinch her butt.

Share a thought or something you have read that is interesting or entertaining.  If you have something profound you need to share, do it.  Find ways to be close in the bathroom. Cleaning the dishes, or doing the laundry.  There are so many ways in which to spend quality time in your routine.

Put on your favorite comedian DVD— even if it is for a few minutes. Laugh! You can listen and get dressed.  Take some of the funniest highlights of the comedy act, and use them in some of your conversations together. Keeps the comedy rolling.

When you get comfortable in doing this refrain from some of the small chatter and delve into  a heavier discussion.  Share something about yourself you have not shared before.  For emphasis, stop and approach each other, look at each other, hug and kiss. Get back to getting ready.

When you say goodbye to go to work, school or the like, grab each other and kiss passionately. Grope as if you will not see each other tonight. Get hot and heavy as you separate.  It will give you something to pick up on later.

Since you must eat dinner, why not plan to make a special dinner together on a Friday or Saturday? Go shopping together and make your best dish.  Buy wine or make a house drink for the night?

Make every interaction you share, moments of some of your best times.

In these situations you are not making time. Nor are you taking the time. You are maximizing your time,  moment by moment, and building a bond as you go through the routine of your day.

Try to make your time together intimate, to the point, you will not need to “make” or “take” time for anything. You will flow together, where ever and when ever you share the same space.

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