Jealousy is an emotion that stems from self-deficiency, lack of self confidence and low self-esteem. (Notice the “self” factors involved.) When you have not done your “self” work, are not doing your best work in your relationship; and you have not been on top of your game, you open the portal for Jealousy to come into your life.
Think about it. When you see Death you know someone is going to die. That is the only reason Death is present. Just like Death is a sign that it is time for someone to die, perhaps Jealousy is a sign that you are weak and headed for “self” destruction.
Jealousy is always in your ear, and corrupting your heart— looking, watching, envying others and being a hater. (“Ain’t nobody got time for that.”)
Your mind is warped. You are always thinking someone is trying to be better than you, trying to outdo you, take something from you, and maybe even take someone from you. In your mind, everyone is doing something as a result of you, but you are not even handling your own business about you.
Every time you put someone else down, you fail to see your self worth. Your external view of others is an internal reflection of yourself.
You’re Jealous? Your fault!
You are not, and have not, because you do not. All of the things you are jealous of is because you have not been doing what you need to do, to have. You have not attained, because you do not do what you need to do, to make whatever you want happen for you. This is your undoing simply because you are not doing.
You are not oblivious, so you know when you are coming up short. You have an internal gauge system that speaks out. Become more aware of yourself. Every time you open your mouth, to talk badly about someone, because they have encountered some good fortune, you are telling on yourself, for not working for your fortune. Every time you give someone a under the eye look, when they have accomplished something, you are exposing your weakness to not even trying to be accomplished.
Your jealousness shows your lack of zealousness!
Are you treating your partner right? Somebody say, “Hell no!” How can you treat your partner right, when you are mistreating yourself? When you come up short with yourself, your relationship suffers. The quality of life you live, determines the quality of love you give. (Check my post Quality of Life/Quality of Love: https://dontdestroyrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/02/19/quality-of-life-quality-of-love/).
Your jealousy makes you intolerable. You cannot have jealousy and not be an accuser. So now you are an accuser. In order to accuse, you must be suspicious. You are accruing a lot of negativity.
You are miserable. Then you make your partner miserable, because he/she has to listen to your suspicions. Why are you suspicious? Is it because you have court evidence? Or are you really fearful, because you have been neglecting your partner, and he/she have the right to seek elsewhere what you are not providing?
If your partner is not doing anything, they are putting up with your negligence, your weakness, your hating, your state of misery, your self deficiencies, and your accusations; because they have real love for you. Yet, you are too damn suspicious to even see that! Keep it up! You are screaming you want to be alone.
Jealousy has nothing to do with love, and it is evident you do not have it. You do not have love, because you do not have the ability to love yourself. How are you capable of loving anyone outside of yourself?
Stop looking around you and look inside of you. You are short changing yourself, neglecting your emotional needs, and not living your best life. Evaluate and access your self worth. You can do it! Take your skills, know-how, talent and work them to receive whatever you want to achieve. You can enjoy the good that happens to others, because you can see the good in yourself.
Jealousy surrounds you with all things that are negative. Start today, and put jealousy away.