This post is written in context of being an uninhibited Lover.  Being a good Lover covers the whole gamut of being in an exclusive relationship, marriage, and single or in between relationships.

Sexual inhibitions exist due to sexual insecurity.  We must strengthen these insecurities in order to have sexual freedom.  In order to be free from inhibitions, you must be sexually secure. Confidence comes with security.

Being sexually free has a number of contributors, like one’s knowledge of sex, technique, experience, sexual style, diet, expression, continual exploration, sexual presence, keeping the sex tools in shape, and the more you learn about sex the more you will have the continual appetite for sex.

Ensure your equipment is always at maximum performance. This means keeping the punani tight and keeping the pipe hard. There is absolutely no compromising on that.

Building sexual knowledge is an absolute necessity.  The desire for learning should never get old. I always recommend novels by HoneyB, or any book regarding sensuality.  The book named, “The Tao of Sexology” should be in every Lover’s library.

Removing all restricting childhood tales and sayings is another way to unleashing. That stuff is outdated. All the sayings of what a good girl does not do?  Well, the bad girls are in. It is so good to be bad in bed! Know you are sexually deprived, and you are not complete without full sexual satisfaction.  Go and get sexed up.

Women: become sexually familiar with yourself. Men are much better than we are at this.  Know what you enjoy while having sex. Where do you enjoy a sensual bite the most? The sexiest women explore their bodies.  Get an erotic massage every now and again.

Know the various scents that work for your body. Too much cologne implies you are trying to cover up something.  Always smell good in your hot spots.

Eat the right foods and look delicious!

Working out builds energy and a sexual appetite.  Working those kegels and the pipe also builds sexual desire.  Being consumed with sexual desire is another way of letting go in bed!

Men: you loose your penile length when your belly is hanging down. You might as well be taking steroids and we know the side effects of that—- penile shrinkage!

Think sex. All the time. Study sex. Then you will exude it. You will begin to bring something new to the bedroom. Creativity comes from continual thought.

Women: less is not always more when it comes to being sexy. Too much exposure diminishes your sexual quality.  Men got your number; and you may get laid but you will also get played. Being a ho does not always denote sexual freedom.

Freedom comes with a sexy aura that comes from within. You can’t fake it. Your body language is smooth, confident, and all of that comes with an edge. That edge is the threshold of heat and passion.

Women: every man you have sex with is not the one.  If you lay down, learn to get up emotionally free. Just enjoy the ride. Some of the greatest things in life are only passing through.  Cannot detach? Don’t lay with him.  Having experiences where you are attached, when you should be detached, makes you emotionally deficient. There is no sexual freedom in that.

Sex is not about quantity, it is about quality.  How many satisfied lovers are in your portfolio? How many call backs do you get requesting more of your good loving?

Uninhibited is not associated with crass, raw language and amateur sexual techniques that are a turn off.  Your sex talk should be alluring, engaging, inviting, and a turn on.

Men who do girls (at least by age in comparison) and virgins, are often inhibited with an uninhibited woman.  You aren’t dealing with someone who needs to be taught, like a girl. You are dealing with a lover who can teach you something.  Release your sexual   inhibitions with an experienced woman.

Those who are sexually aligned can sense sexual weakness, regardless of how much you may talk.  If you still can’t land your target in bed, strengthen your game.  Too much talk can also serve as an expose of your limitations.

Do you use the same techniques, all the time?  Revamp them.  Sex is giving of yourself.  It is not a dance where all the moves are rehearsed.

Always get caught up in the zone.  It is a place where you lose yourself.  When both of you are riding the zone, unexpected and wonderful things happen.  Magic takes over!

Do you have sexual hang-ups? You need a sexual over haul.  Explore the opposite of everything you “think” you know about sex. Dump it and integrate something new, a little at a time.

You like to give out orders while having sex? No one wants to sex a drill sergeant (unless you gear up to dominate!) If you can only get off a certain way, you are not sexually free.

As the famous Nike saying goes, “Just do it!”   Take that adventurous leap! What have you got to lose other than your sexual mind!  

If you cannot kiss, please learn how. A great kiss is one of the best foreplay moves.  If you pucker up too much, you are uptight.  Get a good kissing friend to teach you.

Men: if you can’t dance, you cannot sexually groove. A guy who is awkward, is awkward is bed. Get in the groove!  Check out this scene from the movie “Hitch” where Will Smith gives dancing lessons.  They are simple, but sexy.  Besides the slap in the face, it is a really good scene:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2bH0OXsmsbQ

When it comes to being uninhibited, you must remove every physical obstacle, especially if you are uncomfortable with yourself. You may never confess you lack sexual self confidence, but we can feel it. Love yourself enough to be comfortable with yourself, and you will be your best self, and then you will bring your best self.

Remove the “after stress” of sex by using condoms. Have the best fun, be a freak, but always be safe. You don’t want to chance not being able to enjoy sexual freedom in the future or not living to see the future.

Your experiences as a great uninhibited Lover will put you on the Wanted Lover’s List that will have your Lover’s doors always open just for you.