What is Sexy?

Sexy is not about less.

Sexiness is an aura, a state of mind, knowledge of your sexual depth, as well as your sexual capabilities.

Sexy is the confident attitude. Not an illusionary confidence where you may have the walk, trying to exude sexy confidence. No. Those who have the walk understand why the walk is there and how their tools and value create the walk.

Not about how much you suck or lick— but how good are you in pleasing your sexual partner?  So when he/she go out the door, it is not in search for more.

It is not about how much you show, but about how much you know.  It is not about how much you say, but about how well you do it, so your partner will not stray.

It is not about how much of your assets you show. A demonstrative effort on those levels actually show more of your need to disguise some dysfunction or a repercussion of a situation you have not yet resolved. Or, even worst, your lack of ability to love yourself, because you do not value yourself.

Exposure of too much is just not sexy.

This is not to say that some can not pull it off.  Some folk are sizzling hot, where less actually works for them, but those folk are the exceptions.

They can pull it off so well, that everyone who sees them, says, “Wow or Woa”.  Most of the folk, trying to pull off the sizzle with less, mostly everyone says, “Ow or Noooo”.  Less works for some, but they are the exceptions. The exceptions, as we know, do not apply to most.

Sexy has all the tools, the mind, the knowledge, the know how, the communication, the listening, the experience, the sexual ability, and finesse, to have their partner coming back for more. Not you begging for someone to come back or blowing up their phone.

Sexy is just too sexy for that.

We appear to be an over sexed society or we are intrigued by sex so much, because we are not sexing right.  We are not being sexually satisfied.  So, in some cases, men and women, who sex many people, may not be dogs or hoes as we say, but simply not satisfied in the bedroom.

Perhaps our sexual focus should not be so much on what we have, but we should focus on our sexual  skills and start creating satisfaction and an authentic connection in the bedroom.  We may have more men and women at home being fulfilled and satisfied.    

It is not about how much ass you show, not about how much ass you have.  Not about how big, cause some can’t even work their bigness.  It is about ability and agility.

Sexy has choices. It doesn’t have to be with everyone, so it does not need to attract everyone. Why? Is there really a need to mislead anyone?   Only the ones who matches your intellectuality, ability, flexibility, the echelons of the zone, and the same mind, which is a powerful combo when the sex act is on.

It is not the clothes. You make the clothes.  Too much exposure implies you relinquish your choice, and leave the decision of choice to anyone who decides to try to hit “that”.  And where you ultimately decide, it appears you have left the decision for every dick or pussy to at least try to hit it.  Why not? It is on display for the choosing?

Sexy is just too sexy for that.

There is something else that sexy exudes, and that is sophistication.  Certain things a sophisticated man or lady just do not have to do, resulting in them having more authentic, and passionate  sexual encounters, than those who are passing out sex, like they are passing out fliers.

Sexy is just too sexy for that.

Want to have more sexual authentic connections? Be sexy!  Want to lose those who are loose screws? Don’t be loose.  Want to attract quality folk? Value your quality and your assets.

Be sexy and attract the sexy. 

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3 Responses to What is Sexy?

  1. psichomofo says:

    Sexy – a set of physical attibutes and a mentality. Some people have it and screw it up, and others have it and use it to there compliment.

  2. Interesting…you mention physical attributes. That is a more subjective approach to sexiness. For instance, I’ve always thought Monique (before she lost the weight) was sexy. Regardless of her weight, she was sexy. Others may not think so. I find Don Cheadle sexy, some may not. Wesley Snipes. Denzel. If we put this more with the physical, it is synonymous as to how we individually define beauty, subjective and in the eye of the beholder. I also think Jada is very sexy.

    So, as you can see— the diversity of sexiness, can go from size to size and weight to weight.

    If we create the standard of sexiness, if you will, it is confidence, not only because of physical appearance, but solid sexual intellectually, with the sexual know how tools, and the aura, and appeal. It is a sexual presence. Foxy Brown had a sassy sexual aura. If you have ever seen Diana Ross in concert, she is sexually lady-like down right captivating. She is mesmerizing. A very rare find.

    For those who have it screwed up. Those are the non-sexy! No doubt. Because nothing is screwed up with a sexy mentality.

    P.S. Nice plug in of your models! LOL

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