Stubbornness: The Obstinate Loser!

Do you have a limited perspective in looking at life? Are you locked in on a set way of doing things? Is it  difficult to persuade you (to no avail) of another logical and simplistic perspective?

Why are you like this and what is your continual motivation for being this way?  What value do you bring to the relationship?

Stubbornness:  Unreasonably, often perversely unyielding; bullheaded.  Difficult to treat or deal with; resistant to treatment or effort.” http://www.thefreedictionary.com/stubbornness  (Technically you are similar to a race horse that wears blinders.) At least their blinders serve a purpose!

Does stubbornness work for you in the area of understanding? How can your answer be yes, when you have one way of looking at things?  Understanding is a dimension of various perspectives.

Do you have creativity? How do you bring creativity to anything when you have one “self-focused” (all about your way) perspective that lacks the color and pizazz to create something? Wearing blinders limits your ability to create.

Are you a good lover? Let’s see….how about no! You most likely have been programmed to the missionary position.  A person of your limited perspective would not dare hang from a chandelier.  Chances are you have never given a woman a “G” spot orgasm. As a woman, chances are, you have never had one.

Do you have gratitude? Or perhaps your view on life is so limited, you do not have very much to be thankful for, like getting up in the morning. How are you living?

Do you know how to love? Let me guess, you have one limited definition that only you really understand?  You have love wrapped up in one tiny box.

Most likely you do not ask questions to get the answer. You judge and criticize others instead.  You think you have all of the answers.  You see people as tools by which you try to manipulate into your world. Your mantra?  “It is your way or no way.” Your life is habitual, no excitement, and dull.

Most likely you think you have lived life. You feel you have done everything and have been fully exposed to everything. How can that be when your blinders are a hindrance to you seeing the big picture? You have not begun to live in your small world of rigidity.

Most likely you have morals— to a degree. But you carry a lot of anger.  What your blinders cannot allow you to see— is you are easily flustered, frustrated, and provoked to anger.  Execution of that anger is easy for you.  This is understandable. Your lack of the broader perspective leaves much room for frustration that builds to anger.  Your anger is your cue of your frustration with yourself, but you are too damn stubborn to get the revelation.

So, let’s summarize this shall we? You lack the ability to understand (this limits your communication skills).  You lack creativity and vision.  You are not a good lover.  You are limited in gratitude and appreciation (which means you also feel entitled).  You think you know what love is— but are not open to the broad world of love (with blinders on you most likely cannot recognize love if it walked right up to you).  You are judgmental and critical of others (this means you think you know it all).  You are dull and boring. You have habits that need to be broken, and you are easily angered and frustrated.

One last question?

How can anyone be in a relationship with you?

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About dontdestroyrelationship

I am passionate about Relationships. To be in a Relationship you need skills. Some of the best skills to have are: a creative perspective, strategy in developing a win-win for both sides, be able to speak and receive honest communication, stay persistent, yet calm in conflict, some negotiation skills, and humor. These skills and more you need--- without emotion. If you have logic as the primary and emotion as secondary, there is nothing you cannot overcome in a relationship. I tell you how you bring destroyers into your relationship. Join me! It is a fascinating and revealing journey.
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2 Responses to Stubbornness: The Obstinate Loser!

  1. psichomofo says:

    Reblogged this on Psichomofo and commented:
    I have a lot of friends that suffer from this and it ends up killing there relationships. To me its like they are sailing a ship into rocks. Just doomed for failure. Keeping an open mind and flexibilities about things works well when all parties stick to it.

  2. Liz Willis says:

    Wow! You have really spoken today!

    Stubbornness can be a weakness, which can tear any great relationship apart. Once again, you have given us a vital vitamin to process.

    We never want to be “labeled” as a stubborn individual, so we must be advised reputation is for time, character is for eternity.

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