Self-doubt puts you on a safe path. That safe path works against your progress. Being safe does not make you successful. Being safe does not help you meet your goals. Being on the safe path, does not protect you in a relationship.
If the safe path was really working, there would be more people wanting to marry, less human damaged goods from broken relationships, and less percentages of folk recycling bad behaviors from one relationship to another. And most of us just might be successful.
In reality, being safe does not make you safe. It only provides the illusion of safety, but you are no safer than the man who washes windows for the New York Empire State Building. You are no safer than the player that tries to stop LeBron James when he is driving the ball (like a MAC truck) straight to the basket in the paint. And you are no safer with your heart.
We have so much self-doubt it keeps us handcuffed from venturing out into the unknown. It keeps us from taking our relationships to higher levels because we find comfort in the safety zone. It keeps us from taking our business to a thriving status, because we are held captive by our own self-doubt.
Self-doubt is our self-destroyer and the results of self-stagnation.
What is the unknown? We never want to venture there. We need to know, right now, if we are going to make the thousands of dollars— before we will even try. We want to know the relationship will last— before we will give our heart. We need proof that our idea will work— before we launch it. And when the naysayers say anything that makes negative sense, regarding what could potentially happen, we shut the idea down.
Then we return to self-stagnation, by allowing self-doubt to bind us in our own mind, body, heart and soul.
In everything we consider successful, thriving, popular or prestigious, there were risks involved. No pain, no gain. No risk, no success. It is just that simple.
Athletes are great because they are confident in their abilities. They are confident in their abilities because they put the work in. They practice, work out, stick to a diet and they train their mind to be in the zone. What is the difference between you and an athlete? Discipline. A focused mind. Action. Greatness lies in all of us. Some just stretch out and do what they are meant to do. So should you!
If you lose a little sleep, watch a little less television, structure your social life, build your mind to action by simply doing, cut back on the extra snacks, bring out the bike, or the workout mat— you are executing the necessary steps for what you need to do, and to achieve.
You know what you want to do? Start now! Just take a step. We allow self-doubt to rule us, because we do not have the entire plan figured out. We do not need to have it all figured out. Leave something for the Gods to do. Just write a plan. Make the first step that you can execute. Think about your endeavor every day. Meditate on it. See it happening in your mind, and feel the results of it coming to pass. Execute another task. Next thing you know, you are on your way of doing you!
You will begin to see the results of your efforts, because you will begin to meet the right people, or like-minded folk with the same goal, or they can be a resource to your goal, and the Universe will begin to attract everything you need for you to bring your goal into fruition.
No more self-doubt! Venture out!