We all have heard the term, “You need to handle your business”. There is no difference with Love.
Although there is not a “Webster” definition for the term, “handle your business” as we say it, and as we define it to be, but according to the Urban Dictionary it means, “… to do whatever it is you need to do to get something accomplished”. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=handle%20your%20business
You will find any successful business doing research, building statistical data, performing due diligence, and prep work, before entering into a business deal or merging with another company. Why enter into a partnership (relationship) with another company blindly and without prior knowledge? As a matter of fact, companies will spend hundreds of thousands of dollars and even millions to research another company. There are billions of dollars at stake when embarking on a new joint venture.
How much more with your heart? Are you just giving your heart away? Your heart is priceless! Are you just giving your body and mind away blindly? Understand Love is a business.
We are conducting business all the time, when dealing in matters of love, but are unaware of the business repercussions involved, because we are so busy diving into a relationship with our heart and sexual feelings: so much so, that we are frivolously and irresponsibly mishandling serious business.
I often say we should follow the lead of companies. We are merging with other people and building partnerships/relationships and marriages on very limited information. We should be doing a host of due diligence.
If you marry and end up filing for divorce, there is property, children, money, stock, and 401K plans at stake. This will need to be legally settled and divided. So your marriage, thus your Love is a business. Oh, and there is the marriage contract. A contract is nothing but an agreement with two or more entities. You are indeed involved in business.
There is the common-law, commonly called the common-law marriage. In some states these relationships are governed by the same federal laws as a traditional marriage. The only difference between the traditional marriage and the common-law marriage is the absence of the formalities that a traditional marriage has enacted. This too is business.
Where there is a law, there was business conducted to pass the law.
In most states, a cohabitating couple has all the hardships of marriage without the benefits. Should the relationship end, and someone has to leave the house, it has to be settled amicably, because the federal laws do not apply, even if there is an agreement between both partners— with the exception of a few recorded legal cases. Can’t handle it peaceably between you? Then you most likely will take it to court. Is this business? Yep! So the love in this relationship is also governed by business.
You sleep with someone, and end up with a STD? You did not wrap up the dick. Now you are a STD statistic. You didn’t handle your business. And you did not do your due diligence. Laid down and got up pregnant? You did not wrap that dick? You did not handle the business.
Handle your business! Stop thinking with your feelings!
You think you can raise a child, but cannot live independently on your own? Can’t take care of yourself by yourself? You have no insurance, no money, and no apartment? Handle your business first! If you don’t, and decide to let the state take care of you, then your business becomes the business of the state.
Either you handle your business, or you and your business will be handled.
Believing every word that comes out of someone’s mouth, just because they loosely said the words, “I love you”, but don’t know at least 70% about you? You are not handling the business. Don’t be so desperate to believe, until that person is transparently believable and credible.
Before you say the words, “I do” do research on that person and with that person, or else you will be saying the words “I do” to get done in. Learn as much as you possibly can. Talk about everything. If you both cannot be open or honest on all counts, you will have limitations and problems on what you will not discuss in the future. Observe how you both respond when in conflict with each other, or in situations where anger comes to the fore front.
And lastly, there is another piece of business to handle. It is the business of yourself. Companies not only research other companies, but they continually review their annual revenue and profit/loss ledger.
What does your profit/loss Love ledger says about you? Have you done the research on yourself to determine if you are ready to move in to a relationship with someone? Are you emotionally healthy? Why are you trying to get into a relationship? Are you carrying emotional profits or losses? Have you reconciled your personal ledger and understand the new strategies you need to have in place in order to do your very best and have a successful relationship?
Rather than making decisions regarding matters of the heart by emotion only, understand that you are about to embark upon a new relationship/partnership with another person. Follow the lead of successful companies that cautiously enter into mergers and joint ventures. Spend time on research, understanding, and communicating with your potential partner, even to the point of exploring and analyzing.
Love is a business, so handle your business!