Love Lost to Love Again

Love.  Sometimes it comes to stay.  Sometimes it comes for a time, and then it goes away.

But it’s still Love.

Giving our heart to Love again, after losing a love, seems literally impossible and too much of an emotional risk to do again.  It just hurts too much.

Depends on how you look at it.

Okay. We have had a few bad experiences. Were they all really, really bad? If they were abusive, yes. You almost died?  Then absolutely. There are always exceptions to every situation.  Many of us have not gone through that. We loved someone, gave our heart, and lost that someone.

We had to work through the pain.  Working through pain is excruciating.  Yes. The reality of never being with that person again or touching him/her again.  The memories.  The tender moments. The sex. The arguments and the agreements. Many things come to mind when we have lost a love.  Don’t shut them out. The only way of dealing with pain is through the pain, not in suppression.

At the end of every experience, we come out of it. Hopefully, more emotionally healthy, and having a little bit more understanding of ourselves, and people as a whole;  and with more insight into a world that is so close and familiar, and yet so far and foreign. The world of Love.

Just because we have lost a love, does not mean we have lost to Love.  In the world of Love a loss is a win.  Every time you open your heart to Love you become a little wiser, and a little less fearful of being hurt. You actually build more resilience to matters of the heart and you become more knowledgeable about working in love, though love, and even around love.

There is an exception.  If you are the cause of losing your love, then that is a loss.  It is a loss when you have failed to do all in your power to make it work.  Love cannot operate in full force when you have built so many defenses, that no one can get to your heart.

You can still turn it into a win.  Begin to open up a little bit more on the next round.  Or maybe go back and try to repair any damage you have done.  There are no guarantees of a full reconciliation, but sometimes stepping back is the beginning to stepping forward.

When it comes to love, there is one thing we know.  There is not one man or one woman on this earth in whom we have bestowed such great power that will ever cause us to never Love again. Somebody say hell no!  No. No. No. No.  No love dwelling in one bite size human being (in this vast universe, we all are just bite size) can leave us and take our heart away with them, and we shut down to Love forever?  Oh, hell no!

We will not crumble just because we have been hurt. We can emotionally and mentally heal and be made whole again by Love, because of Love, and in the name of Love.  We love ourselves way too much for anyone we have ever loved to destroy us!

Why? Because we are a people where we face danger every day.  Yet, we still face the world. A little child teaches us this in a commercial that says, “Every 30 seconds, someone gets struck by lightning, but we still play in the rain”….

The more we explore Love the more we learn. And just as we fell as children while learning to ride a bike, we brushed it off, got back on, and fearlessly conquered the bike. To the point, that even to this day, we can get on any bike and ride that baby!  All because we got up, and tried again, and again, and again, until we got it right.

So it is with Love. We only fear it, because we have been hurt. We are beautiful human beings. If it didn’t hurt it would not have meaning for us.  If we did not mourn death, life would have no meaning.  We know we will eventually die, and those whom we love will die, but it does not stop us from waking up in the morning to live.  We actually learn the value of how important it is to live, by the reminders of death.

The same for Love.  We will love again!

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About dontdestroyrelationship

I am passionate about Relationships. To be in a Relationship you need skills. Some of the best skills to have are: a creative perspective, strategy in developing a win-win for both sides, be able to speak and receive honest communication, stay persistent, yet calm in conflict, some negotiation skills, and humor. These skills and more you need--- without emotion. If you have logic as the primary and emotion as secondary, there is nothing you cannot overcome in a relationship. I tell you how you bring destroyers into your relationship. Join me! It is a fascinating and revealing journey.
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