Baby talk to me!
I need to tell you what is really in my heart. I need to tell you we are in this series, (You Need a Fire!) because I have lost something in this relationship and I want it back. Not only do I want it back, I want you back too. See, I can lose you while we are still together. I want us back.
I have learned that when we lose something in our relationship, we also have lost a piece of each other. See, the relationship is connected to you and me. And together we are the full spectrum of what this relationship is— good or bad.
I am not afraid as I was before to tell you what is in my heart. I have learned that if vulnerability is what was carrying my fear, I am no longer afraid of being vulnerable.
What is vulnerability really? An expose of what is in my heart? A revealer of what is on my mind? I would rather you know what I am feeling and what I am thinking. Now what I may fear is that you may reciprocate only a part of what I feel. I may even be devastated that what I have thought all along is now a hard reality in hearing the truth from your heart. I will risk it. If the truth is what I need, then fine, I will handle it.
I am willing to take the risk. Only in true sharing is where the real deep connection is anyway.
So I am taking the risk to talk. No more secrets and no more fears. If I am not happy, I want you to know. My desires and my dreams, I want to tell you.
I want more in this relationship. Now that I have been feeling the intimate connection, let’s strengthen that connection in sharing what we really feel. Let’s strengthen us by talking. And from here on, let’s always talk.
There are so many things to share Baby. Not about how my day was or yours. That’s child’s play in conversation. But what did we learn today? Perhaps in watching someone while riding public transportation. Or something we read in one of the John Henrik Clarke’s books from our library. Perhaps there was something we saw on face book, like the picture of the meat with the tumor, so now we need to stop eating meat. What do you think about that? Perhaps you signed up for a class as you are always doing something new.
I want this relationship. Not for my own selfish needs, except for the fact, I want to be with you forever. If that is selfish, then I am guilty. But I am in this relationship for many reasons. I love you. I love you because you complement the love I have for myself. You are an extension of not only what I see in myself but what I can grow within myself. See, your strength is a challenge in my weakness. So, not only do I love you for who I see and know you to be, I love you in also what I can aspire to be.
I know what I can bring to you. I can bring you my strengths to balance your weaknesses also. Together we can build on that goal you have on the back burner. I can strategize with you to help achieve your goals. Let’s take my professional skills and work them to building a business for us.
Let us bring our differences together. We can use them to create the edge and adventure in our relationship. I am a pragmatist, you are an optimist.
My weakness is where you can help me. I am not the most positive person. So when I am ranting about the bad stuff that is happening in the world, you can help me by deflecting (for your emotional protection) and responding to my negative rant with a question that when you phrase it a certain way, it forces me to respond to your question with a positive response. I need that.
Sexually, I can be more, do more, and bring it harder. And I want to. Our sex can be much more exciting and much more frequent.
Anyway Baby, you see where I am. Now I need you to talk to me.