There are some of us that stand in our own way of the relationship.  There are so many things we will not do, and just won’t do.   Why?  No reason!

If you are the one who likes to engage in combative conversation, and love to point out your partner’s every imperfection and every knick? Someone else is getting sexually combative with your partner, licking, kissing every knick with a flick.

If you cannot sit down, be fully present, and listen with your whole heart, you are creating the opportunity for someone else to listen, and do for your partner what you should be doing. 

If you are always stalling, in a response to an argument or disagreement, trying to be cool, and delaying the solutional conversation: trust me—  someone else is responding urgently to the needs of your partner. You ain’t holding nothing up!

If you do not care, you open the door for your partner to experience someone who really does care and have no problem in being your partner’s advocate. 

If you do not make the effort to be active in the relationship, you are opening the door of activities for someone to share with your partner what you will not do.

If you are always sitting back, waiting for your partner to do most of the things you will not take the time to do?  Keep on doing you, and someone will be doing them. 

If you are the one who loves to hit under the belt: have you noticed your partner has not gut punched your ass yet?  Know they are holding something back from you, and about you, because you will not be able to handle the truth.  Do not push them to hurt your feelings!

If you are the one who always have an excuse, do know your game is so played, that you are the one being played.

If you are the one believing you are winning the game, and your partner is saying nothing?  When you find out who is really winning the game, you will stop with your shenanigans.

If you are holding out and holding back on the sex— keep it up!  Boredom to Whoredom Baby!

If you are the one slacking off, not making much contribution to the relationship and your partner is not saying anything? Someone else is making up for your slack.

If you are dipping and slipping and your partner is not saying anything, nor are you being bombarded with questions?  You are both doing own your thing.

If you have been slacking in providing the best of yourself to your partner, know that no one will continue to be without, because of you.

If you think you have your partner on lock down, and you think you are the Ruler in the relationship? Ha! Another kingdom is being visited by “your” dick/pussy and they are grinding it up in the Ruler’s chambers!

The point is you take too much for granted, and you so arrogantly think that your partner will continue to accept second hand treatment? You had better ask somebody!