Are we bringing our best intellectual game to our relationships? Nothing is sexier than a partner who is smart, has historical knowledge, spiritual understanding, good communication skills, self-empowerment, some legal insight, is physically fit, some artistic ability, financially conscious, good dietary habits, with an understanding as to where we fit in this country from a political, economic, educational, and social perspective. Can you say, “So sexy?!!”

You want to boost your sex appeal? Read something!

Having conversations that are provocative, with a spin of humor and insight of how everything ties in to our daily lives, (because it does) provides the spontaneity of communication a couple can enjoy for years to come.

Being ignorantly lost, no matter how good you may look means you only look good with a very small brain. Sexy? I think not!

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If you do not know the bible in your religion, and your knowledge is limited, where you cannot elaborate beyond what you have been taught. If you cannot unfold a mystery or an inspiring thought out of a scripture, you are no more than a humanoid. You are simply being led, and devoid of individualistic thought as to why you are being led.

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If you cannot expound upon your history and do not know about Dr. Clarke, Dr. Sertima, Dr. Ben Jochannan, Phil Valentine, Michael Bradley, Dr. Leary, Dr. Frances Cress Welsing and the like.

If you believe everything you see on television, and everything you hear on radio— you need to buy a clue. If you cannot read more than 1000 words in one setting, without getting bored or acting as if you have a limited attention span, yet you have no problem in reading a bunch of nothingness that holds no relevance for progression— and if you do not have an informational filter with the ability to analyze fact from false.

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If you do not understand how important it is to love yourself, and why it is a must that you do so. You would understand that you are severely limited in a vast world of unlimited love that you can bring in to your relationship.

If you do not know what a hybrid is. What?

Expanding your knowledge base gives you the ability to rationalize, analyze, and socialize, through various problems in your life. Some issues would be nonexistent, if you had the accumulation of information that provides a plethora of options for your resolution, which would help you to formalize a plan of action.

Let’s use an example. Suppose you are having a problem with a colleague at the office. (This is a common occurrence.) You may feel you are in opposition with that person and say something like, “The Devil is a lie!” That may be true, but accepting your colleague as an enemy actually activates a battle. (Your thoughts have power.) If you had the book called, “The 48 Laws of Power” you would know about, Law #8. “When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control….You hold the cards.” You would then see your colleague in a less resistant and less powerful position. Their vulnerabilities would become clear to you, because you are analyzing the situation objectively, and intellectually, rather than emotionally.

When you are a reader, and apply what you have read, you are able to navigate with ease, and with confidence, while adding value to your relationship, and enhancing the interactions of everyone you meet.

If you and your partner do not have meaningful and stimulating conversations, and you do not share new information on a regular basis, please know that you are not developing and renewing the relationship as a communicative couple. You are headed towards a painful silence and on the road to boredom.

There is nothing sexier than being with someone who constantly reinvents who they are through learning and studying. You are as limited as to what you know. If you know little, you will produce little. If you are a big thinker, with a small knowledge base, you will be remiss in how to put your thought into a goal to bring into fruition.

The journey of knowledge is never ending, and you will always be on the path of learning. That is okay. Just be on the path.

Knowledge is not only powerful, but sexy! Read something!