It is astounding that we will claim someone as our own human piece of real estate. Yet, we have all type of reasons as to why we do not go hard body in the relationship. When I say hard body, please interpret this to mean, going steady, keeping a progressive pace, being diligent, and doing your thing in your relationship, from every angle you can, and making every day count.
Being in a relationship implies being committed to someone. You ever noticed on Facebook, how folk are labeled as “being in a relationship?” If they did not put that label on their profile, and he/she is with someone, you know there would be hell to pay. That person is automatically labeled as being taken, meaning, being owned by another. In truth, we really expect our partner to not only be committed to us, but to agree to be owned by us.
Perhaps if we focused more on taking ownership of the responsibility at being our very best in the relationship, versus taking “dibs” http://onlineslangdictionary.com/meaning-definition-of/dibs on our partner, our relationships would become more robust and move to a higher echelon.
If we remove the principle of “That is my man.” If we remove the principle “That is my woman,” we would see our partner as the world does every day.
You might step back to see her beauty, and who she is. You may see that you have forgotten how fine she is, and although she is a woman who could have any man she wants— she chooses you. She chooses you, because she loves you. You might step up your ‘diminishing’ game because if you “walked a mile in her thong” you would see how many men look at her, and would love to wake up with her in the morning. She could very well choose someone who might give her everything that you will not even try to provide. But, she chose you! Wow! Work it from every angle Man! What are you doing? Give her all you have, and know that may be not enough, which is enough to keep you trying to be enough. And when you get to that point, you will be more than enough.
If you did not feel as if you owned him, you just might see him as the handsome babe other women see. The very smile you take for granted. The sexy look you now disregard. His penetrating eyes you now avoid just may cause some women to swoon. If you walk a day in his boxers or briefs, you just may see and understand that in this day and time, it does not take much for another woman to want your Man’s Man (you know what I mean Ladies). If he is a real man, making money, and is moving and grooving in his place of business, real estate, construction, the office, consulting, accountant, trucking, writing, or playing with the band, etc—-Girl, you had better stop playing around and “Love Knock” that man down!
The problem with commitment in relationships is we are only committed in the areas we individually deem necessary. We commit just enough to where our comfort zone lies or to serve some selfish purpose. For some reason, we have the ‘do not sleep with anyone else besides me’ pretty down packed. But we do not take the sexual responsibility, where we can boldly say, “!f you should sleep with someone else, it sure as hell will not be my fault, because I am knocking you out and laying it on you!” No. We will not take ownership of ensuring to provide the best sexual and varietal experience for our partner.
We make the daily mistake in taking every day for granted. And the domino affect comes down to our partner, who deserves— everyday, our very best, and all the love we have to give.
Put love on the agenda daily.
Rather than focusing on holding down your human real estate property, expecting that property to be yours— while you do nothing; and until you decide to trade-in, try to remember the saying, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.” If you have not gotten to the place in knowing your partner is a jewel, keep digging until you do— or do a trade-in, and allow someone else to find the treasure you threw away.
Dig deep in love. We are either in it or we are not in it. We are either on or we are off. There is no in between when it comes relationships.