“Nothingness is the state of being nothing.” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nothing It is the state of doing nothing.

“It’s often said that you can’t get something from nothing. And while this may be true for most practical applications of your life, it isn’t true for our physical Universe.” http://scienceblogs.com/startswithabang/2011/08/16/the-physics-of-nothing-the-phi/

This statement may be scientifically valid, but from the perspective of relationships, do not underestimate the power of Nothingness.

A woman arrived on my blog, because she typed the words, “why a man won’t kiss or say I love you back.” It broke my heart that she is going through that, and even more heart wrenching is she knows the answer she is searching for.

If he is not touching you, he does not want to. If he does not want to return your love in action, word, or deed: he will not do so. We have seen men climb mountains for pussy. He is giving you Nothingness— code for, “I do not love you.” “I do not want to. I am not into you. I will not…I do not….” He is giving you a bunch of Nothingness that says everything. It is no different for a guy involved with a woman who is giving him a bunch of Nothingness. The actions and messages are all the same.

Many of us are putting up with Nothingness, and some of us are dishing out Nothingness. It appears we are living in a time where Nothingness (could be) the new truth— the truth in saying everything without saying a word. Hey! You want out of a relationship? Just do nothing! You don’t even have to say anything. Nothingness is saying everything by doing absolutely nothing.

Allow me to call it “the bitch move.” Rather than end it like a man, or end it like a woman, you just do nothing? So-you-just-“do-nothing”-your-way-out-of-a-relationship? Ultimately, one person is stepping out of the relationship by doing nothing, yet appearing to still be a part of the relationship. (Yes, being there implies being in!) The response of Nothingness is deceiving, misleading, and manipulative while controlling a situation. It is the beginning of the end without the confrontation of saying, “The End.”

If you are giving 100% and he is giving 40%— Nothingness. If she says she is going to do something, and she does not keep her word— Nothingness. If you are the one making most of the moves in the relationship— Nothingness. If you are the giver and he is the taker. If you are the doer, and she is just sitting back going for the ride. If you are dishing out the cash, but he always has a stash? Nothingness!

To maintain the balance of goodness in the relationship, both should be willing to bring all of their individual value into the relationship. But sitting back and receiving all the goodness, with a response of Nothingness, is totally unacceptable.

Nothingness operates in one of two ways: The arrogant and entitled individual who flagrantly holds no regard for your love; or the coward, who eventually slips out, because the fear of saying anything is just too hard.

The analysis of nothing can be applied mathematically. Notice how zero with any number in the equation, equals the sum of the number. For example, (0+1=1), (0+10=10), (0+100=100). Note that zero makes no contribution to the equation. The partner who is doing nothing is the zero and you are the number that creates the value to the equation of your relationship. Essentially, you are the only one bringing all of the value to your relationship. Logically and mathematically, you are alone in the relationship.

It is time to reconcile and count up the costs.

Sometimes we get lost in someone. We forget there is a big world outside of our four walls. Explore! Expand! Accelerate the Life Pedal a little bit! Do not allow one person out of millions of people cause you to shut down to Love. Use the pain to dive into something that is productive. Allow some good to come out of your experience, and work in your favor, despite the nothingness.