Fear the Fear

Fear. The Final Frontier in Space for everything that ends in nothingness. The holder of regrets. The place where the would’ve, the could’ve, and the should’ve dwells. Many lives have ended with their dreams, unfulfilled, and left out into the vast space of Fear.

Fear is defined as “a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.” http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/fear

Did you catch that? “…whether the threat is real or imagined..”

According to the website, “Fear’s Amazing Statistics” http://www.fearofstuff.com/featured/fears-amazing-statistics/:
“40% of what you worry about will never happen; 30% of what you worry about or fear are things that happened in the past and can’t be changed; 10% of what we worry about are considered by most to be insignificant issues; 12% of what we worry about are issues about our health that will not happen. This means that 92% of what we fear or worry about will never take place.”

What about the remaining 8%? It is the actual percentage of our real legitimate concerns.

This means fear have us paralyzed into doing nothing, and traumatized by nothing– all for nothing, but— what— 8%? Now that is nothing!

Let’s expose the element of fear and how it works. Fear has to be the most powerful emotion— aside from Love. Reason being, it is the most paralyzing emotion. It has the ability to break down its hostage to do nothing, and to be nothing, with nothing, but illusion— all for nothing.

Fear is the eliminator of our will. It comes in the form of the naysayer. Fear. The reason why we stay in misery. Fear. The “no” behind venturing out into the unknown and the reason why we stay in our comfort zone.

Fear. The reason why we don’t “just do it!” (Nike) Fear. The reason why we don’t reach our full potential. Fear. The reason why we over-react. Fear. The reason why we do not act at all. Fear. The producer of doubt. Fear. The reason why we do not really believe.

Fear. The reason we will go with the crowd and not take a stand. Fear. When we love, but won’t say it. Fear. Too proud to say it. Too fearful to try again. Too fearful to love again. Fear. We will tell a lie rather than tell the truth. Fear. The reason we will believe a lie, rather than believe the truth.

“Only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”—Franklin D Roosevelt
Well, that is because everything else is only an illusion of fear.

Fear is behind most if not all of the negative emotions we feel. It is also behind all of our inhibitions and inhibitors:

• The feelings we have toward someone that makes us feel envious, jealous and resentful (What haters feel!) These feelings are manifestations of our inner deficiencies, insecurities and lack of will.
• Selfishness is an indicator of our lack of abundance. We fear being without or being depleted of what we have.
• Sadness and anxiety is what we feel when we have surrendered emotional control. Rather than choose happiness, we have lost the will to choose. So, we are overtaken in these moods, because we lack the courage to steer our emotions.
• Anger comes from pain. Pain creates fear of being hurt again. So we self-protect. The anger is the comeback response to ensure we do not expose further vulnerability.
• Discouragement is the powerless feeling we experience when we have been stripped of our power. Worrying and feeling sorry for ourselves is easier than it is to fight.

In the book, “The Power of Concentration” (Dumont) the author puts emphasis on the internal power versus the areas where we feel less powerful. Rather than focus on fear, he suggests we concentrate on courage. If we make courage the focal point, each situation at a time, we will strengthen the courage within us.

We will always be confronted by fear. It will either confront us directly or through someone around us. It is a part of the universal balance. Good would not exist without evil, and vice versa. We can look at fear as a gauge for each time we overcome it, step by step, along the way. It can also serve as a marker of our growth.

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but the acknowledgement of something greater than fear.” (Movie, Princess Diaries)

YOU are the something greater!

Live fearlessly!

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4 Responses to Fear the Fear

  1. Randall says:

    As the Bible states God don’t give us a spirit of fear but of power love and a sound mind. You are so right too many people die without going after their dreams. That’s why I lived out all my crazy dreams while I was young lol.
    great job

  2. Liz Willis says:

    Fear. The element which produces life to “halt”! Fear. The manifestation of apprehension! Once again, you have allowed your readers to embark upon a journey of erudition! Thank you for your excellent enlightment on fear! Please be advised, as you so fearlessly submit blog after blog, please know, YOU are the something greater!

    Live free from the 92%!

    • Wow! Lady Liz! Love, “The manifestation of apprehension.” It is quite evident you are allowing the thoughts from my heart to permeate you through my words. I appreciate the critical thinking you apply. Thank you so much for your response.

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