Why is it so difficult to say the deepest thoughts of the heart? Why do you withhold a kind word or compliment to someone you love? It is only an expression of love.
If you are an advocate of truth and you claim to speak the truth—–then speak the truth that is in your heart, especially if it is a compliment.
If you feel something, say something!
You know your sweetie looks good, leaving home for the office, yet you hold back in saying so? What are you doing? Giving him/her to the world, and serving them on a platter for someone else to tell them?
No external force should do more for your partner than you are doing at home. No one should outdo you in loving. No one should out say you. No one should out work you. When you hold back on the loving, you allow your partner to become vulnerable to the kindness and compliments from someone else. If you leave your partner with a reservoir of doubt regarding your love and support—- you put it there. That is your fault. Should an external force comes between you and your love-— hey you did it! Every affair starts out with a word of expression.
Please know someone will look at your partner, knowing how hot he/she looks and will make no reservations about saying it. Yet, you can’t say it? How can you sit back comfortable in your relationship and you cannot do something as simple as give a compliment?
The grass always looks greener on the other side. Keep your grass hedged, nurtured, fertilized and watered! Dethatch that grass!
We lose because we choose to hold back.
Always stop to give a compliment, hug, kiss, tap, wink, or a smile. Do not fail to make him/her feel good. Find a way—every day. Look them in the eye and say something like, “Baby, I love you. I need you. I am so glad to have you in my life.” Say it!!! You know your man is fine, say it! You know your woman is fine, say it! Trust me, if you won’t, someone else will. You better know someone will get with your man. Hold on to your woman, because someone will hit that. You know it. Keep acting like you don’t know what is going on. You just may be met with an external intruder for whom you have opened the door.
You are breeding destroyers in your relationship. You are taking your partner for granted and creating vulnerability in the relationship. You are not building a foundation that is healthy and nourishing. You are not a good communicator. Communication is not just about skill, it is also about the will to say what you feel. And your heart is closed. An open heart is willing to love the object of its affection. You even lack affection. If you lack affection, your performance in bed may be more aggressive, while being detached. Who wants that? Aggression and passion is the way to go! Did I mention you are most likely inhibited? If you are inhibited you are limited in the bed. If you are limited in bed, you are not a good lover.
Check yourself before you wreck your relationship.
If you can be strong enough to criticize and judge, you can be just as strong in giving a compliment. If you have no problem in expressing anger, be just as diligent in expressing your love.
I can hear someone saying, “Well if she/he is going to go, it is nothing I can do.” That is the most fearful punked bunch of buffoonery. You are just making an excuse for being lackadaisical. You are doing a bunch of nothingness. A bunch of nothingness says everything.
Some of you are holding back. Why is that? Are you so limited and shallow that you have to ration out love because if you love hard every day you will have nothing else to offer? If you believe that about yourself, you will be alone – soon and often! Be about yourself! Get interesting! Read! Be adventurous! Get a hobby! Get creative! Work it!
Some of you are fearful and trying to protect your heart. (May I say the fear factor is so played!) What can you possibly fear? Getting hurt? You need to strengthen up. Fortify. Get that emotion in check. You are fearful to share your feelings because the relationship may not last?
If tomorrow is not promised, because it is controlled by a higher power, why do you require the promise of tomorrow from a mortal? If you are fearful of loving, you are missing out, all because you need the promise of one word. Tomorrow? You will not get it. You can hope. You can plan. But what you do have is now—– this moment and this day. Love today as if it were your last.
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but the acknowledgement that there is something greater than fear.” (Movie, Princess Diaries) Understand that sometimes love comes and it goes. Maybe you will encounter the experience of love leaving, we all do, but love will come again. It is a journey. Learn to love each of your loves in his/her time and place. Get ready for it. As you enjoy yourself, you are preparing for the love you were born to love. This takes preparation. So get ready through every loving experience.