Death to Live

It is with a heavy heart that I write. After a day of work, I walked over to check in with a colleague. She was in tears and proceeded to tell me, she had just received a call, moments ago, that her niece’s husband was killed in Indianapolis, Indiana.

I listened as she told me she had just visited with her niece’s husband, her niece and their baby during the Christmas holiday. She said, “Nat, I don’t want to question God, but I don’t understand. Why now? They had just gotten to a solid place in their relationship, the baby…..the baby.” And she began to cry.

I was forced to remember a sermon by a minister, who said, “Life is like a vapor.” He took a match, lite it, and then blew it out. The church fell silent as we watched the smoke vapors thin out into the air.

It is said so often, we take life for granted. We do. We forget every time we run to an appointment, rush to work, run for the train, that we are really rushing to die.

We go through life taking our relationships for granted, believing we have another day to fix it and make it better. “Life is like a vapor.”

We are too proud, envious, greedy, jealous, selfish, haters, takers, fighters, killers (there is more than one way to kill) fakers, self centric—all the things we can change to improve our lives, but we believe we have another day. “Life is like a vapor.”

We make enemies, turn our backs on a loyal friend, take each other for granted, use one another, don’t love, and sure as hell don’t care! Thinking we have another day to fix it. “Life is like a …..”

We must make it a mandate to live! Love! Talk! Give! Sex! Remove the barriers that make some folk homeless. Go home! Somebody on this earth loves you. Make it right. Throw the pride in the street and you go home! “Life is like …..”

We live in a hard and cruel world. Our only choice is to make it. There are no other options. Live together! Combine the rent/mortgage. Combine the income. Combine the love. Come together like companies do. They merge to be one gigantuous force of power in their industry of expertise. Unless you are a man who owns an island—no man is an island. We need to follow the lead of the leading companies. Companies say, “..crush the competition.” We can crush the economy! Merge! Join Forces! Double the dollars! Because, “Life is like a vapor.”

About dontdestroyrelationship

I am passionate about Relationships. To be in a Relationship you need skills. Some of the best skills to have are: a creative perspective, strategy in developing a win-win for both sides, be able to speak and receive honest communication, stay persistent, yet calm in conflict, some negotiation skills, and humor. These skills and more you need--- without emotion. If you have logic as the primary and emotion as secondary, there is nothing you cannot overcome in a relationship. I tell you how you bring destroyers into your relationship. Join me! It is a fascinating and revealing journey.
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5 Responses to Death to Live

  1. Jevon says:

    I love this.

  2. WOW very well said. So many times I think on what I have done in my past and have so many regrets. Why do we always think we have tomorrow? Tomorrow is not promised. A song writer wrote “For your tomorrow might very well just be today”. We need to get it together. I’m so happy I got it together with someone who was more to me than most family members. They say blood is thicker than water but I have had waters become thicker than blood.

  3. Liz Willis says:

    Natalie! Excellent read! Once again, you have managed to collectively intercept the true meaning of camaraderie within the compound of this elaborate, yet astute and perspicacious blog! I once heard a wise man state, “we must all discontinue remaining miniatures, and come together as one great giant”. What a powerful, yet enlighting statement! Your magnanimous, benevolent blog, has once again captured my heart!

    My heart bleeds for your cohert. My prayer is that God, in His infinite power, will comfort her heart and the heart of the wife who lost her husband. That family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

    I look forward to this weeks blog. Untill then, I will be reminded, Life is like………

  4. Kirsten Willis says:

    Wow mom you have really outdone yourself. I am so proud if you. Writing for you is like walking its simple and excellent. Keep writing and keep your head up. I am so proud to have a mother like you and to be your daughter!! Keep doing your thing girlie!! Love ya

  5. G says:

    Great read really enjoyed it.

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